Excruciating Pain


P A I N. The word itself makes one feel uncomfortable. Often, the pain of a near and dear one is more painful than one’s own pain. A mother probably feels the pain of her little child more than her own. The closer the bond, the greater the pain felt over the discomfort of the beloved. The greatest bond of every Believer is the bond with his most beloved master, Sayyiduna Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). Allah Ta‘ala declares in the Glorious Quraan: “The Nabi is closer to the Believers than their own selves” (Ahzaab, v6). Thus the pain of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is the pain of every Believer. If something hurts him, it should pierce our hearts. When the disbelievers were about to execute the great Sahaabi, Zaid bin Dathina (radhiyallahu ‘anhu), they asked him: “Would you be happier if Muhammad (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was in your place and you were left free to be with your family?” His spontaneous response was: “By Allah, I cannot even bear that I be sitting comfortably with my family while even a thorn is pricking Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam).” This response emanated from true love and was a reflection of the deep bond that he had with Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). He was happy to lay down his life, but could not tolerate the discomfort of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam).

Bond of Love

It is due to the effect of the same bond with Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) that we too are affected when we read of the persecution that he suffered at the hands of his enemies. It moves one to tears when one reads about the incidents of how he was sworn at, cursed, spat upon, stoned, nearly strangled to death and subjected to unimaginable and untold hardship and difficulties. Likewise, it is due to the same bond of love that we experience deep disappointment, anguish and agony when cartoons are drawn of our most beloved Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). This pain is a sign of imaan. Only a Mu’min can truly love Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam).

There is nevertheless a crucial question to consider. While we are indeed hurt upon the actions of others against the personality of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), are we also in any way responsible for bringing any pain and suffering upon his Mubarak heart??? What??? We … the Believers …, his followers …, his lovers … causing him pain?? Let us understand the matter in its proper context.

Source of Comfort or Pain?

It is authentically established that the Ambiya (‘alaihimus salaam) are alive in their resting places. The actions of their Ummah are also presented to them. The good deeds of their followers bring joy and happiness while their evil actions will naturally bring pain and sorrow. Thus by our actions we are either becoming a source of comfort to the mubaarak heart of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) or, Allah forbid, we are causing pain to him with our disobedience!!!


Take for instance just one aspect – the five daily salaah. Do we fulfil this fundamental obligation in a manner that brings happiness to him or grief?  Once while weeping and sobbing Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) informed the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) that among the signs of Qiyaamah are that people will discard their salaah and follow their (evil) desires (Al Ishaa’ah fi Ashratis Saa’ah, pg. 171). Why was our beloved Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) sobbing? What was his pain? It was the excruciating pain over the condition of the Ummah   when many of his followers will neglect their salaah!!! Do we feel this hurt? Are we moved by this pain? Are we moved enough to ensure that we do not neglect our salaah? Furthermore, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was also deeply hurt by the actions of those who did not perform their salaah in the Musjid without a valid reason that he said: “Had it not been for the women and children, I would have burnt down their homes.” What is our response to this pain??? Will we be a source of comfort in this regard or a source of further anguish and pain??? 


Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) sobbed and wept over two aspects – discarding salaah and following (evil) desires. Let us reflect deeply upon our condition with regard to following of our desires and consider how much excruciating pain we are inflicting upon the heart of our beloved. Some aspects to reflect upon are:

* Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) desired that a nikaah should be a very simple affair. Our desire, however, is to do it in grand style. Thus hundreds of thousands, and even millions, are spent on a single wedding. Many haraam practices such as intermingling of men and women, music, photography, people strutting around in immodest and shameless dressing, etc., are also perpetrated at many weddings. Is this going to bring happiness to our beloved? Is Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) going to be comforted by the small “purdah section” (a new trend to segregate just a small section from the main hall exclusively for men or women) while the rest of the function is piercing his mubaarak heart???

* Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) desired that hayaa (modesty and shame) should be exercised in every aspect of life. This includes the manner of dressing. Many in his Ummah, especially women, desire to ape the west in their dressing. Many daughters of the Ummah proudly don the immoral figure hugging garments of the west – their jeans, T shirts, short and tight fashion clothing and indecent apparel. What are we doing to the mubaarak heart??? Do we have any feelings???


* Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) desired that his Ummah should make the Hereafter their goal in life and merely engage in acquiring the world to the extent of necessity. What is our object of life? Is our desire the Aakhirah, or has “multiplying the numbers” become the main focus of life??? If it is the latter, is this not inflicting pain to the mubaarak heart???

There are numerous other aspects for us to reflect upon – what we speak, listen to and look at, our attire and appearance, how we conduct business and how we live our lives in general. Deeply reflect upon each aspect and think: “Am I a source of comfort to my beloved Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) or am I inflicting excruciating pain??”

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