Faqeehul Ummah: Parent’s Disunity


Saturday, 10 September 2016 10:14

Summary of Letter

[The writer apparently complained of differences between his parents and requested advice in this regard, as well as with regard to giving up sin.]

Summary of Reply:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Respected Brother/Sister:

Assalamu ‘Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

I was greatly perturbed to hear about the disunity of your parents. May Allah Ta‘ala grant love and affection in their hearts for one another. It is nevertheless compulsory for you to respect both your parents. Never allow such a situation to occur that in supporting one of your parents you disrespect the other.

To be affected by their disputes is natural. However, bear this with patience. Otherwise, disregarding one’s parents or ill-treating them brings down various calamities upon one.

As for refraining from sin, the only way is to fight the nafs (evil desires). Without fighting the nafs, the nafs will not become subservient (and one will continue to fall into sin). (Maktoobaat vol. 5, pg. 60)