Parting Advices


Tuesday, 12 September 2017 08:41

Obedient children give great importance to the ‘parting advice’ of a parent – the advice given before demise. Any sensible person who realizes that his time to leave the world is imminent will advise his family of things that matter most to him, and which will be of prior importance for their benefit and their protection from harm. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), who is closer to us than our own parents, also gave many parting advices to the Ummah on the momentous occasion of Hajjatul Wadaa’ (the Farewell Pilgrimage), less than 3 months prior to his departure from this world. The aspects which he advised were very close to his heart, hence he highlighted them on this unique occasion, in the presence of more than 100 000 Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum). Those who take these advices to heart and adhere to them, insha Allah they will be very close to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) on the Day of Qiyaamah, and will be ushered into the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala.

The Honour of a Believer

One of the aspects that was greatly emphasized in several of the khutbahs (sermons) that were delivered on this occasion, was respecting the honour and dignity of every Believer. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) declared, “Indeed your blood, wealth and your honour are sacred for one another, just like the sanctity of this day, in this place, in this month.” (Saheeh Bukhaari #1739)

The occasion during which Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) mentioned these blessed words was one that enjoyed sanctity from three separate dimensions. Firstly, it was the Day of ‘Eid, secondly, it was in a sacred land, the Haram, and thirdly, it was in one of the four sacred months, Zul Hijjah. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) then impressed on the Ummah that although this unique occasion enjoyed such great sanctity, the sanctity that every Believer enjoys in the sight of Allah Ta‘ala is even greater! We can then well imagine the respect and consideration that we should be showing to one another. Furthermore, this hadeeth highlights that it is not only the physical safety and financial safety of the Believer that should be respected. Rather, even his honour and reputation should be respected, and that none should spread baseless rumours and false allegations about any person. Engaging in gheebah (backbiting), slander, humiliating a person, using vulgar language against any employee, spouse or any other person – these are all aspects that trample the honor of a Mu’min, and are hence detested by Allah Ta‘ala and His beloved Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam).

Wealth without Consent

Furthermore, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) highlighted the importance of not harming a Muslim’s wealth. He is reported to have said, “Listen to me and you will live happily! DO NOT OPPRESS! DO NOT OPPRESS! DO NOT OPPRESS! The wealth of a Muslim brother is not halaal without his consent!” (Majma‘uz Zawaaid #5621)

Blatantly stealing something is not the only way in which a person’s wealth is taken without his consent. Not paying an employee his due, depriving heirs of their rightful share of the inheritance, using an item belonging to another person without his permission, not paying creditors what is owed to them, etc., are also different ways of taking somebody’s wealth without their consent and are all forms of oppression. Hence, the usurper earns the curses of those oppressed, due to which he suffers major problems in his life. Sometimes he is afflicted with a financial crisis, or an illness, or his children fall into vices, etc., (however, one should not assume that every person in some crisis was guilty of oppression. Sometimes, difficulties come as a test to raise a person’s status in the Hereafter).


A very serious matter which the Ummah was also alerted to was the mischief-making of Shaitaan in creating quarrels and disputes. In one of his khutbahs, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Behold! Indeed Shaitaan has lost hope in the Believers worshipping him. However, he is in (the effort of) causing quarrels and fights between you.” (Majma‘uz Zawaaid #5621)             

In another narration, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has explained that a husband fighting with his wife is one of the sins that cause Shaitaan to become the most pleased (Saheeh Muslim #2813). One of the reasons for this is that fighting is a sin that automatically drags a person into a conglomeration of other sins. For example, if a person is fighting with his brother, this could cause them to sever family ties, slander one another and engage in  gheebah. In fact, it will not be farfetched to imagine that one will even begin to lie in order to blacken the name of his brother. Thereafter, the immediate family of each, together with their friends, will also become embroiled in this dispute, ultimately also falling into the same sins. Quarrels and disputes by nature are such, that they consume a person’s mind and emotions. The consequence of this is that a person becomes ill-tempered and thereafter vents his irritation on innocent people, such as the staff or children, whose only crime was that they happened to enter the firing line.

When the harms of arguing and quarrelling are so many, it simply is not worth it to engage in an argument with any person if it can be avoided. Hence, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) promised a palace on the outskirts of Jannah for the person who avoids quarrelling even though he is in the right (Abu Dawood #4800). Often, all it requires is for one to humble himself and avoid the dispute, thereby earning this great reward.

The golden advices of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) are such that they bring a person happiness in this world and the next. They are thus the ‘ultimate prescriptions’ for a Believer. May Allah Ta‘ala assist us all to adhere to these prescriptions.