If a total stranger had to jump into your car, start the engine and try to take the car for a drive, what would you do? Naturally, one would become angered and, out of possessiveness, he would evict the trespasser from his vehicle. It would also not be farfetched to imagine that he would even physically assault the offender for interfering with what belonged to him.

Casual Chat

Now imagine that a strange man greets your wife and casually begins chatting to her (the same applies to social media chatting), or shakes her hand, or even tries to hug her. While many men would not allow the hug, or maybe the handshake, some men would allow the conversation, while there are yet others who actively promote it. In fact, some men even take offense if they are not introduced to an associate’s wife. Even many parents who are regarded as more conservative tend to allow their children to establish a relationship, communicate and go out with a boy or girl on the basis of them ‘being engaged’, not realizing that they are actually in zina.

As we approach Qiyaamah, and draw further and further away from the blessed era of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), we find the Ummah being stripped of their hayaa and shame and plunging headlong into acts of shamelessness. Alarmingly, they do not even realize it, but rather regard their behavior to be ‘normal’ as it stems from and conforms to the westernized society in which most of us live.

The result is that we allow shameless behaviour to run rampant in our own families, and fail to realize just how serious a sin this is. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said that Allah Ta‘ala has made Jannah haraam for a dayyooth. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) described a dayyooth as “the man who is not concerned regarding who enters his home and interacts with his women-folk.” (Majma‘uz Zawaaid #7791)

No Actions Accepted         

In yet another hadeeth, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “On the Day of Qiyaamah, Allah Ta‘ala will neither accept the fardh actions nor the nafl actions of the suqoor.” When the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) asked who the term suqoor referred to, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “The person who allows men to enter his home and interact with his women-folk.” (Majma‘uz Zawaaid #7793)

How lamentable it is that many men are more possessive over their cars than they are over their own wives and daughters! They attend mixed gatherings with their wives and daughters, allow male servants freely into their homes, allow their wives and daughters to roam about freely and interact with whomsoever they wish, and they are themselves guilty of interacting with the wives and daughters of other men.

If we ponder over the above ahaadeeth, we will realize that through this indecent, shameless behaviour, we are actually depriving ourselves from entering Jannah. May Allah Ta‘ala guide us all to a life of purity and chastity.

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