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Faqeehul Ummah: Controlling Desires

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Letter

I find it impossible to refrain from looking at strange women. Please advise me as to how I can rectify this evil habit.

Reply

In sharee‘ah, it is forbidden to look at strange women, and sharee‘ah will not command us to do something which is impossible. Thus, it cannot be ‘impossible’ for us to protect our gaze. Allah Ta‘ala has commanded us in the Quraan Majeed to lower our gaze. The more we oppose our evil inclinations and desires, the more we will gain control over our nafs. (Maktoobaat vol. 1, pg. 93)

Letter

I am overpowered by my carnal desires. As a result I have even slipped into zina. I am now extremely remorseful and in grief. I request that Mufti Saheb prescribe some form of punishment that will help me to recover and also prescribe some treatment to bring my carnal desires under control. I am in need of your du‘aas.

Reply

May Allah Ta‘ala grant you the ability to control your carnal desires and bring your temperament onto moderation. It is necessary to sincerely repent to gain forgiveness for one’s sins. Also sever all contact from the person who you became involved with. For instance, if the person was the sister-in-law, never be in solitude with her, or compromise purdah between you and her, or laugh and joke with one another. Impose a monetary penalty as well as a physical penalty on yourself. As a monetary penalty, impose upon yourself to give such an amount in charity which will create some strain and pressure upon you (the amount must not be so small which you can easily afford). The physical penalty should be in the form of fasting. When repenting before Allah Ta‘ala, make a firm resolution never to allow this to happen again. (Maktoobaat vol. 1, pg. 88)

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