Home Sweet Home

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Home Sweet Home — the very statement sounds so sweet. One can well imagine what is the actual sweetness of a real home. Indeed, even if a little hut is truly a home, its “sweetness” surpasses the “sweetness” of all the wealth in the world. On the contrary, if it is only a house — merely a physical structure — then the most palatial and exquisite dwelling with state-of-the-art amenities will also be devoid of any sweetness. It will be a bitter place and, despite every comfort and luxury therein, it could become among the most agonising places to be in.

A home is a place of peace and tranquillity, of warmth and affection, a place where despite day-to-day challenges the hearts are bonded, where people care for each other, consider others before themselves and live with mutual respect. Such a place becomes a very sweet home even if it is bare of any luxuries.

What makes it a Home?

The most important and fundamental aspect that transforms a house into a home is to bring alive the beautiful teachings of the Quraan and sunnah. Without this, even a palace will also be just a house — a place devoid of tranquillity and peace and which will never give one any satisfaction. Some very basic teachings of the sunnah are discussed hereunder. Let us sincerely and wholeheartedly practice upon these simple actions and experience the positive transformation it will bring into our homes insha-Allah.

Entering the Home

“First impressions are lasting impressions”. Hence, when entering the home, enter cheerfully with a smile. If a person’s shoes are dirty, he will either wipe them on the mat before entering or leave them at the door. Therefore, if a person experienced a most difficult and frustrating day, he should either ‘wipe’ the frustration off his face or leave it at the door before entering. Entering with a frown and scowl and dumping the day’s frustration on the innocent household is not at all fair or considerate. Likewise, the wife should receive the husband cheerfully. She too should not be waiting for the moment that he enters to offload her frustrations. If any issue has to be addressed, it should be left for much later.

Then, when entering, make salaam to the household in a loving manner. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) mentioned to Hazrat Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) that entering with salaam is a means of barakah (blessings) for not only the one entering but for the entire household (Sunan Tirmizi #2698). Likewise, when entering, take the name of Allah Ta‘ala and recite the sunnah du‘aa for entering the home. Doing so prevents Shaitaan from spending the night in the home, thus safeguarding the household from his mischief and the fights and quarrels that he instigates (Saheeh Muslim #5262).

Meals

For many families, the only opportunity to sit together, as a family, is meal time. Hence, this is an important occasion and should be greatly valued. In this regard, the first point is that the family should sit together and eat their meals together. It should not be that each person eats in isolation, at his own convenience and leisure. In one hadeeth, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) mentioned to the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) that eating together is a means of securing barakah in the food (Sunan Abi Dawood #3764).

Before commencing the meal, the sunnah du‘aa should be recited, as this prevents Shaitaan from destroying the barakah in the food, thus granting us safety from his evil influence (Saheeh Muslim #5262).

Family Time

One of the most important ingredients required for a house to be a happy home is that of a loving family environment. For this to exist, the household will have to take out the time to bond with one another so that this love and connection as a family can develop. This is indeed the sunnah of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), who despite having the greatest responsibility to shoulder from the entire mankind, ensured that he took out time to spend with his family. It can be something as simple as spending some time playing with the children, or taking out the time to assist one’s wife with her domestic chores, as it is these simple gestures that engender love in the hearts.

Another vital component of family time is that of daily home ta’leem. The family should sit together, read from the Fazaa-il kitaabs and make  du‘aa together. Some time should also be set aside for reciting the Quraan Majeed and making some zikr. When the Quraan Majeed and the blessed ahaadeeth are recited in one’s home, the name of Allah Ta‘ala is taken in zikr and the household engage in du‘aa together, then how can the home not be one of barakah and happiness?

Of utmost importance, however, is that the head of the household conducts himself in a most loving and caring manner. In this way, the children are raised in an environment where they feel loved and wanted, giving them emotional security.

The Thief of Time

In the past, people used to say that procrastination is the thief of time. However, even procrastination cannot compare to the new thief on the block – the smartphone. In the name of enhanced connectivity, it has caused families to completely disconnect from one another, where they can be seated next to one another, in the same room, yet be very far from one another — each immersed in their own world of social networking.

For the family to bond and connect with one another, the cell phone usage must be carefully curbed and controlled. For example, the phone should not be used by any person during meal times or at ta’leem time. Likewise, after retiring to bed, the husband and wife should not look at their phones. When entering and exiting the home, the husband should do so while making salaam — not while glued to his phone.

Happiness @ Home

When these blessed sunnats of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) are revived in our homes, our homes will be illuminated with noor. The mercy of Allah Ta‘ala will rain on our homes and the angels will flock to our homes. Our homes will be true sanctuaries of happiness and contentment. Conversely, if our homes are bereft of these sunnats, then as fancy as our furniture may be, as advanced as our appliances may be and as perfect as the paint may be, we will still feel miserable and constrained at home.

The result of this is that despite filling our homes with every item designed to bring comfort, we will feel the need to flee our homes in the holidays, resorting to holiday ‘resorts’ and other vacation destinations in a futile attempt to find comfort.

May Allah Ta‘ala make our houses into true homes of Deen and fill them with happiness — which is the real “sweetness”, aameen.

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