Marital Bliss


A man and a woman are strangers to one another. Yet within seconds, for the duration of time that it takes to utter a proposal and acceptance, they are tied together in a sacred bond — the bond of Nikah. It is a bond that is meant to last a lifetime. Nikah is an ibadah. It is an act of great virtue. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has highlighted the importance of Nikah by declaring: “Nikah is MY Sunnah.”

When a person contemplates marriage, he has great hopes and aspirations. He hopes for a bond of peace and bliss till death separates them. He looks forward towards a happy home with pious and obedient children, he desires a bed of roses. In short — he or she is looking forward to and desiring the barakah (blessings) of marriage. A marriage wherein there is barakah will be a marriage that has all the above. If the marriage is deprived of barakah, there will be more thorns than roses!

     Among the aspects that increase the barakah of the marriage is simplicity in the Nikah. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) is reported to have said: “Verily the Nikah with the greatest barakah  is the Nikah wherein the least expense was incurred.” Also, conducting the Nikah according to the Sunnah and refraining from every sin and transgression in all aspects related to the Nikah increases its barakah. The converse is also true. Committing transgressions of the Shariah and having lavish “star studded” weddings decreases the barakah of the Nikah.

Among the barakah destroyers of recent times are the “bridal shower” parties that take place. “Bridal shower” parties were known to be a get-together of friends of the bride-to-be. Each invited person was expected to bring along a gift. This was bad enough as it is actually a sophisticated manner of begging. However, it has recently emerged that these parties have in many instances become much worse. Music is played. Dancers and singers are hired. Obscene pictures are plastered all around. Other vulgarities take place. This is extremely shocking. May Allah Ta’ala save us! If the run-up to the Nikah is such a “shower” as above, one cannot expect “barakah” to pour down on the marriage. It is a recipe to destroy the sacred bond. It is the formula to lay a bed of thorns — Allah forbid!

             Let us shower our Nikahs with barakah. Showers of barakah come from adopting the Sunnah in our Nikahs and by refraining from things that invite the wrath of Allah Ta’ala.
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