Condoning the Wrong in a Wedding

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Once, Hazrat Moulana Khaleel Ahmad Saharanpuri (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) was invited to a wedding in Meerut. The boy’s side requested Hazrat to pass on the clothing to the groom for tabarruk. Hazrat went into the room where the boy was waiting after having had a bath. I (Mufti ‘Aashiq Ilaahi) was present with Hazrat. He picked up the kurtah and pants and handed these over to the boy. When he was about to pass the achkan (long coat), Hazrat asked me to check if it was made of silk. I checked carefully and said: “Yes Hazrat, it appears to be of silk.” He kept it aside and said: “It is haraam to wear silk and haraam to make others wear it.” When he looked at the topi, he saw it embedded with gold threads. And so he said in a sharp tone: “This is also haraam.” The boy’s family was not cautious and did not bother about Hazrat’s reprimand. They picked up the items themselves and made the boy wear them. Hazrat’s face turned red with anger but he controlled himself and said to me: “Let’s go.” And we departed from there. He did not even go to the place where he was staying over. He was filled with sorrow and grief, and went to the house of Haji Wajeehud Deen Saheb. He said: “What type of bond do they have with me that they invite me to take part in sinful acts? All those who attend this wedding will be sinning, for it is a place where the bridegroom is seated wearing haraam clothing, as one person (the bridegroom) will be committing the haraam and there will be others (the attendees) who will condone it.”

When the family heard of this, they felt ashamed because it was an issue of family pride. Many people were attached to Hazrat – they could neither leave him nor leave the family. They tried to get the boy to change his clothes. But many of the people had neither any attachment to Hazrat nor any concern for following the sharee‘ah. They considered the changing of clothes to be an ill-omen and said: “It is essential for the bridegroom to wear the clothes which have been sent to him from the bride’s family.” However, the others were sharper than them. Haji Wajeehud Deen Saheb took out his expensive Egyptian achkan (long coat) and gave it to the boy saying he will not get a better suit than this in the whole of India. He made him wear it, and instead of the topi, he tied a turban on his head. He presented the boy before Hazrat and requested him to attend the wedding. Hazrat got up and joined in the wedding. (Tazkiratul Khaleel, pg. 322)

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