Hazrat Shaikh Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) once mentioned:
I am not in favour of the manner in which the wedding functions of today are conducted. People have unnecessarily made things difficult for themselves. One enlists the name of a person one wishes to invite, thereafter one remembers the next person and then the third. In this way a lengthy list of the names of many people are written and one ends of having an elaborate wedding function. Often all this is done for name and fame.
Hazrat Shaikh then mentioned an incident of a wealthy Hindu Banya whose daughter was getting married. For name and fame, he gave each guest a gold coin. He thought to himself that he had made a name for himself and he was now famous. When the guests were departing, he sat in a hidden place waiting to hear the praises of the people as they left. As the people passed by, he heard one person saying: “He is so wealthy yet he is a miser. He only gave one gold coin whereas he could have given a little more through which we could benefit.” He heard another person say something else and a third person criticizing him in another way. Each person condemned and criticized the gift. After hearing all of this, the Hindu Banya put his hands on his head and said, “Now I have seen the reality and true outcome of such elaborate functions. Despite my warmth, hospitality and generosity, instead of praising me, all I heard and received was criticism.” (Malfoozaate Hazrat Shaikh 1/99)