Anger over Humiliation


Wednesday, 24 October 2007 22:44

Summary of Letter:

باسمه تعالى
Respected Mufti Saheb
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

I am suffering from a (spiritual) illness. Whenever anybody belittles or humiliates me, I become enraged. Please remedy this weakness in me. 


Summary of Reply:

باسمه تعالى
Respected Brother/Sister
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته


The remedy is extremely easy provided that you have the courage. Whenever anybody belittles or humiliates you, immediately ponder thus: " I have committed various other sins. My character is also poor. I carry much impurity within my body all the time. Hence if somebody belittles or humiliates me, SO WHAT? He has not even come close to the reality (of my evils).

Furthermore, whatever happens in this world is first sanctioned from above (by Allah Ta’ala). Only then does it become apparent here. My being humiliated was also sanctioned from above, hence it has occured. Why then do I become angry ???

Besides this, whatever occurrence upsets me takes place as a compensation for my sins. I should therefore be grateful to the one humiliating me that as a result of this my sins are being forgiven."

(Maktoobat Faqihul Ummah V.1 pg. 53)