Balance Between Wife and Mother


Wednesday, 14 March 2018 22:29

Throughout Hazrat Qari Siddeeq Ahmad Baandwi’s (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) married life he practiced on the aayah “Be good towards your spouses”. Hailing from a wealthy family and being the daughter of a wealthy man, his wife was accustomed to luxury and comfort. Qari Siddeeq Saheb (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) therefore made an effort to see to her ease and well-being. Initially, Qari Siddeeq Saheb’s (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) wife would fall ill very often. He would worry about her treatment and would make a concerted effort to see to her by taking her to many places. 

When Qari Siddeeq Saheb (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) was staying in Fatehpur, his wife would stay with him whilst his mother remained in Hatora. From time to time Qari Siddeeq Saheb (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) would visit his mother and serve her. Qari Siddeeq Saheb (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) never neglected his mother whilst looking after and seeing to his wife. He never said anything to her that would upset her. He never gave his mother a stiff look and never back answered her. In the same vein, he never spoke in an improper manner to his wife because of his mother. He always worked with softness, politeness, understanding, patience and tolerance. (Hayaat-e-Siddeeq, pg. 137)


Refraining from Exaggeration in Speech


Monday, 19 March 2018 16:29

Hazrat Shaikh Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) once mentioned:

Sometimes, people go to extremes when praising people for their good or reproaching them for their mistakes. They either throw them up above the sky or push them down beneath the earth when praising them or reproaching them. This way is incorrect. We should refrain from exaggeration in speech. In the following aayah, Allah Ta‘ala commands us to adopt justice in our speech and actions at all times:

وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ عَلَىٰ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا ۚ اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ

The enmity of any people should not cause you to surpass the limits of justice. Remain just (at all times), that is closer to piety.

(Suhbat Baa Awliyaa pg. 106)

Source: Ihyaauddeen.co.za


Loaded for Action


Tuesday, 13 March 2018 15:14

A little boy, whilst playing in a park, found a belt of bullets. He ran over to his father to show him what he had found. His father warned him that a single bullet is enough to kill a lion and that the bullets should be returned to where he had found them. As the boy ran along to place back the bullets, a small pup chased him. The little boy, in an effort to save himself, threw bullet after bullet at the pup, but to no effect. Eventually the owner came to the scene and with just one instruction, the pup stopped in its track.

Thereafter the boy innocently asked his father, “If one bullet can kill a lion, how come so many bullets could not stop a pup?” The father’s simple reply was, “My dear son! A bullet will only work if it is loaded in a gun.”

In the same way, a person may ask, “I have books and books loaded with incidents of how Allah Ta‘ala’s help came to the Muslims. How is it that I, as a Muslim do not enjoy the same help of Allah Ta‘ala?” The simple reply is that those Muslims were Muslims in the true sense of the word, loaded with good actions. This drew the help of Allah Ta‘ala. We too need to load our lives with good actions. Then insha-Allah, we too will enjoy the help of Allah Ta‘ala.


Being Pleased with the Decision of Allah Ta‘ala


Thursday, 08 March 2018 15:09

Hazrat Moulana Husain Ahmad Madani [rahmatullahi ‘alaih] mentioned:

It is necessary for man to be pleased and grateful to Allah Ta‘ala for whatever condition He has kept him in. This is called “radha bil qadha’ (being pleased with the decisions of Allah Ta‘ala). This is really the dictates of humility. It is necessary for a lover of Allah Ta‘ala to be pleased with whatever His beloved decides for him. Therefore, for one to be uncomfortable and troubled in any way is incorrect, especially when we believe that Allah Ta‘ala is our Rabb and the Rabb of the entire world. Whatever a Murabbi (Nurturer) does, he does it for our tarbiyah (nurturing) and for our goodness even though one undergoes some difficulty.

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The Ultimate ‘Contact’

Saalim bin ‘Abdillah (rahimahullah) was the son of the illustrious Sahaabi, ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma). He was born during the khilaafah of ‘Uthmaan (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) and was a great Muhaddith and Mufti of Madeenah Munawwarah.

On one occasion, the ruler, Hishaam bin ‘Abdil Malik, entered the Ka’bah and met Saalim bin ‘Abdillah (rahimahullah). Seeing this eminent personality, he immediately said, “Do you have any need that you wish to ask of me?” Saalim (rahimahullah) replied, “I am embarrassed to stand in the house of Allah Ta‘ala and place my needs before someone besides Him.”

Thereafter, when they had exited the Ka’bah, Hishaam said to Saalim (rahimahullah), “You may now place your needs before me (as we are no longer in the house of Allah Ta‘ala).” In reply, Saalim (rahimahullah) asked, “Which needs should I place before you? My needs of this world or my needs of the Hereafter?” Hishaam replied, “Your needs of this world.”

Saalim (rahimahullah) responded, “By Allah! I have not placed my needs of this world before the One who owns this world, so how can I place my needs of this world before one who does not own this world?” (Siyaru Aa’laamin Nubalaa vol. 4 pg. 466)

NB: Perhaps it was due to Saalim (rahimahullah) being overcome by his aversion to the world and wealth that he did not present his needs of this world to Allah Ta‘ala.  

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