Man - The Most Noble of Allah's Creation / Parenting


Saturday, 29 December 2012 09:04

(Summary of Mufti Ebrahim Salejee’s majlis (Saturday 22nd December)

Man – the noblest of Allah’s creation and the need for correct parenting

Allah Ta`ala states in the Qur’aan Shareef: “Indeed We have honoured mankind.” Compared to the rest of the creation, man is unique in every aspect. Man has been created with a balance. He is a combination of bestial qualities as well as angelic qualities. However, in this entire equation, what is the purpose of man on earth? Every creation of Allah remembers Allah Ta`ala. Allah Ta`ala says: “There isn’t a thing that does not make the tasbeeh of Allah Ta`ala.” However, this is one aspect that these creations are engaged in the zikr of Allah. But Allah Ta`ala has specifically mentioned for man that he has been created for His Ibaadat. To understand what ibaadat means, understand it through the following: 

There are two types of workers. One is the person who has been contracted for a specific work, like an accountant who has been hired for his services. If you tell him to manage a shop for you or to cook a meal he will refuse because he has not been trained for that. 

The other type of a worker is like a slave. Whatever work is asked of him to do, he will do it, whether to serve your guests, or to clean the toilets, or to run your business. This is the position of man, and therefore he has been exalted above the rest of the creation because he has been made in charge of handling all the affairs of the entire creation for Allah Ta`ala. This is what is meant by the worship and service of Allah; that man will be acting in the place of Allah. Therefore, man cannot be selective and choose what he wants to do.

Elders should assume responsibility and understand that they have a responsibility towards their juniors. Some people want their wives to become pious and righteous overnight, but they fail to realise how long it took them to correct themselves. On the other hand, there are some who are not worried at all for the Deen of their family. As the head of the home we have to assume responsibility and understand what the responsibility is. Some understand the responsibility to be merely the providing of basic needs, but this is incorrect. The more important aspect is the instilling of correct values. Obviously, the bulk of it will be on the mother, but it does not mean that the father plays no role. Both are parents. If you want respect from the child then you need to pass on that type of values as well. The parents of the past were very firm on this. Parenting is not just to tell the children a few stories and give your unwanted time. Have a system at home that by Maghrib everyone must be at home. Then after Maghrib, there could be supper and then the family can sit down together as a family and carry out ta`leem.

Five things are recommended nowadays in this ta`leem, especially with the type of environment we have outside. The first is to do the ta`leem of Fazaa’il-e-A`maal. This will assist to motivate and create the enthusiasm to carry out ibaadat. It does not have to be dry. Rather make it enjoyable and to the level of the child. The second aspect after motivation is to understand how to go about doing those encouraged actions. For this you need Bahishti Zewar. The third aspect is the recitation of the Qur’aan. There can be no substitute for this by putting on a CD or the radio. The child must not end the day without the Qur’aan. By reciting the kalaam of Allah, Allah will take care of you. The fourth is a bit of zikr. This will assist in inculcating taqwa. It will create the consciousness that Allah is watching. We normally ask why is the home not right and filled with jinnaat and jadu problems. This is the solution to these problems. The fifth thing is that since the challenges are so great we should make du`aa collectively to Allah Ta`ala to assist us. And this is the greatest gift that a father can give to the child, that he has linked the child to Allah. The child will not feel lost at any time in his life, whether the father is present or not.

Date: 2012-12-22

Duration: 01:02:02

Format: MP3

Size: 10.6 MB

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