{"id":18642,"date":"2020-09-24T11:56:18","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T11:56:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/alhaadi.org.za\/new\/?p=18642"},"modified":"2024-10-10T08:02:54","modified_gmt":"2024-10-10T06:02:54","slug":"upholding-the-respect-of-his-elder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alhaadi.org.za\/?p=18642","title":{"rendered":"Upholding the Respect of His Elder"},"content":{"rendered":"

On one occasion, an argument transpired between Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah Aslami (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) and Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu). During the course of the argument, Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) happened to utter something, against Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), which he regretted immediately thereafter.<\/p>\n

Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) instantly said to him, \u201cO Rabee\u2018ah! Say those words back to me in retaliation!\u201d However, Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) refused to do so. Hearing his refusal, Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) said, \u201cYou must say those words to me, or else I will refer the matter to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam)!\u201d Even then, Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah refused to repeat the words and retaliate against Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu).<\/p>\n

Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) then departed, proceeding to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam), with Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) following behind.<\/p>\n

In the interim, some members of the Aslam clan (the family of Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah [radhiyallahu \u2018anhu]), having observed what had transpired, came to him and said, \u201cMay Allah Ta\u2018ala have mercy on Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu)! Why is he complaining to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) about you, whereas he is the one who uttered the statement against you?\u201d<\/p>\n

Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) replied, \u201cDo you know who he is? He is Abu Bakr Siddeeq (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu)! He is second of the two (the one whom the Quraan Majeed has referred to as being the companion of Rasulullah [sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam] in the cave during the journey of hijrah)! He is the senior and elder of all the Muslims! Beware that he should not turn around and catch sight of you trying to assist me against him, as this may anger him. Then, he will go to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam), and Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) will become angry on account of his anger, then Allah Ta\u2018ala will become displeased due to their displeasure, and then Rabee\u2018ah will be destroyed!\u201d His family asked him, \u201cWhat do you want us to do?\u201d He instructed, \u201cGo back (and do not interfere in this matter).\u201d<\/p>\n

When Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) and Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah\u00a0 (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) arrived in the presence of Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam), Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) informed him of what had transpired, exactly as it had transpired.<\/p>\n

After hearing the incident from Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) raised his blessed head and said, \u201cO Rabee\u2018ah! What transpired between you and Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu)?\u201d Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) replied by informing Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) of what had transpired, including the statement uttered by Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), his desire for Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) to retaliate, and his refusal to do so.<\/p>\n

Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) then said to Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), \u201cYes, do not retaliate! However, say to Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), \u2018May Allah forgive you, O Abu Bakr!\u2019\u201d Hence, Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) turned to Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) and said, \u201cMay Allah forgive you, O Abu Bakr!\u201d Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) then departed while he was weeping.<\/p>\n

(Musnad Ahmad #16577)<\/em><\/p>\n

Lessons:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. As soon as Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) uttered the statement which Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) disliked, he realized that he had erred, and his instant concern was to rectify his error. This is the reason why he insisted that Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) retaliate. However, when Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) refused to retaliate, then having no other recourse, Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) referred the matter to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) \u2013 even though it was his error \u2013 as he could not rest until his error was rectified. Hence, as soon as we err or make a mistake, we should immediately repent, seek forgiveness and try to make amends, and should not rest until we do so.<\/p>\n

2. Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) understood that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) was not an ordinary person \u2013 he was the greatest of all the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhum). Hence, even when Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) uttered the words which he disliked, he ensured that he still afforded him respect and honour, on account of his lofty, esteemed position. Furthermore, he explained that due to the special relationship which Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) had with Allah Ta\u2018ala and Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam), angering him would draw the anger of Allah Ta\u2018ala and Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam). We should thus ensure that we always show respect to our parents, the \u2018Ulama, the seniors and elders in our communities, etc.<\/p>\n

3. Despite Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) explaining what had transpired to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) exactly as it had transpired, Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) still asked Sayyiduna Rabee\u2018ah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) to explain his version of the incident. Hence, we understand that it is important to allow both parties to speak before arriving at a conclusion.<\/p>\n

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