{"id":18675,"date":"2020-09-24T13:16:52","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T13:16:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/alhaadi.org.za\/new\/?p=18675"},"modified":"2024-12-16T08:05:48","modified_gmt":"2024-12-16T06:05:48","slug":"a-nikaah-of-the-sunnah","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alhaadi.org.za\/?p=18675","title":{"rendered":"A Nikaah of the Sunnah"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sayyiduna Salmaan Faarisi (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) married a woman from Kindah and spent the first night of his marriage at his in-law\u2019s home. On that night, he walked towards their home, accompanied by some of his friends. On reaching the home, he turned to them and said, \u201cReturn (to your homes) \u2013 may Allah Ta\u2018ala reward you!\u201d Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) did not allow them to enter the home (and meet his wife) as is done by foolish people.<\/p>\n

When Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) looked at the home and observed that it was decorated with drapes, he remarked, \u201cDoes your home have a fever, or has the Ka\u2018bah moved to Kindah?\u201d They replied, \u201cNeither does our home have a fever, nor has the Ka\u2018bah moved to Kindah (rather, we have done this to decorate the home).\u201d Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) refused to enter the home, until every drape was removed \u2013 except for the drape covering the doorway (as this drape fulfilled the function of purdah).<\/p>\n

Thereafter, on entering the home, he saw abundant items and goods. He thus asked, \u201cTo whom do all these items and goods belong?\u201d His wife\u2019s family answered, \u201cThey belong to you and your wife.\u201d Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) replied, \u201cThis is not what my beloved friend (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) advised me. My beloved friend (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) advised me that my possessions of the world should be exactly like the provisions of a traveller (i.e. they should not be abundant and in excess).\u201d<\/p>\n

Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) then saw attendants and thus enquired, \u201cWhose attendants are these?\u201d His wife\u2019s family responded, \u201cThey are your attendants and the attendants of your wife.\u201d Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) again replied, \u201cThis is not what my beloved friend (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) advised me. My beloved friend (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) advised me that I should not keep any slave girls, unless I will marry them or I will get them married. If I keep them without doing this, and they thereafter commit zina, then I will also bear responsibility for their sin, without their sin being decreased in any way.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) then addressed the women seated by his wife and said, \u201cWill you please go, and leave my wife and I in privacy?\u201d The women agreed and left, after which Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) went to the door of the room and closed it, lowering the curtain as well. He then sat by his wife and passed his hand over her forelock, making du\u2018aa for barakah (blessings). He then asked her, \u201cWill you do something that I wish to ask of you?\u201d His wife respectfully answered, \u201cYou are in the position of one who must be obeyed (as you are my husband).\u201d Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) thus said, \u201cMy beloved friend (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) advised me that when I am united with my wife, then we should unite on the obedience of Allah Ta\u2018ala.\u201d Saying this, they both stood and performed a few rakaats of nafl salaah. Thereafter, they spent the night together.<\/p>\n

The following morning, his companions came to him and enquired, \u201cHow did you find your wife?\u201d However, Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) ignored them. They then repeated the question, but he again ignored them, until finally, when they asked him for the third time, he said, \u201cAllah Ta\u2018ala has created curtains, inner rooms and doors so that you can maintain the privacy and secrecy of what occurs inside. It is sufficient for you to enquire regarding that which is public. As for that which is private, do not ask about it. I heard Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) mentioning that those who discuss this (i.e. bedroom activities) are like two donkeys, openly mating on the roadside.\u201d<\/p>\n

(Hilyatul Auliyaa vol. 1, pg. 256)<\/em><\/p>\n

Lessons:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) understood that a life devoid of the sunnah of Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) will be a life devoid of any happiness and barakah. Hence, he ensured that he did not compromise, in any way, on the sunnah.<\/p>\n

2. When he corrected his in-laws on multiple issues, they did not take offence, or become angry. Rather, they accepted his correction, as they were people of imaan and sincerity.<\/p>\n

3. Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) ensured that his very first action, with his bride, was that of salaah. This was setting the theme for the remainder of the marriage, as the spouses are, in reality, partners in the effort to earn Jannnah. When one falls, the other will pick him\/her up, and when one falters, the other will be there to encourage and motivate him\/her.<\/p>\n

4. Bedroom affairs and other private details of the spouse should never be discussed with any person. Hence, Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) did not discuss these details with even his friends, but rather corrected them when they enquired. (Read more on this\u00a0here<\/a>)<\/p>\n

5. Sayyiduna Salmaan (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) did not allow his friends to come into contact with his wife, but rather maintained complete purdah, sending them away from her home. Not maintaining purdah from the spouse\u2019s friends is a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n

6. At present, due to the strict regulations and limits on social gatherings, many people feel that it is not the right time to get married, as they will not be able to hold a large wedding. However, we should realize that this is the perfect time to get married \u2013 as the regulations will make it even easier to have a simple wedding, according to the sunnah. Hence, if the suitable match is found, the nikaah should not be delayed.<\/p>\n

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