(Correspondence of Hazrat Mufti Mahmood Hasan Gangohi rahimahullah)
Letter: I am in great distress. My wife never listens to me. She fights with my parents, my brother and my sister and she even threatens to kill me. I have tried all possible ways to make her understand. I have even lived separately from her. Instead of making her understand that she should refrain from such behaviour, her parents further incite her and encourage her in her wrong ways. Thus she has become even more bold in her actions. I request you to make dua for her and also to show me some way out of my difficulty.
Reply: I am greatly pained at your distressed condition. That which becomes a habit is very difficult to leave. You need to be patient and tolerant. You have been explaining to her that you are not pleased with her speech and actions. Then too, she has not refrained from them. Thus her sin is not on you. After Esha salaah, you should read the following two hundred times with punctuality,
يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوْبِ وَالْأَبْصَارِ يَا خَالِقَ اللَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ يَا عَزِيْزُ يَا لَطِيْفُ يَا غَفَّارُ
Also recite Durood Shareef eleven times before and after reciting the above dua. May Allah Ta’ala have mercy on you. (Maktoobaat vol. 1, pg. 43)