Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) once mentioned the following:
Men should reflect and ponder over the beautiful manner in which Allah Ta‘ala has interceded on behalf of women in the Quraan Majeed saying:
عَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
(O men!) Live with them (your wives) with kindness. If you dislike them, then perhaps you dislike something whereas Allah has placed in it (the thing you dislike) abundant goodness. (Hence, through looking at the abundant goodness in the thing you dislike, you will begin to appreciate it). (Surah Nisaa v19)
For example, great rewards are promised for the man who exercises sabr (patience and tolerance) over the ill temper or poor character of his wife. Similarly, through one’s wife, one may be granted pious offspring who will be the means of one’s salvation in the Hereafter.
(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 23/189)
Source: Ihyaauddeen.co.za