Summary of Letter:
Respected Mufti Saheb
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
I am afflicted with this condition that at times I am overcome with a desire to gaze at ghair mahramzina (fornication). Often I am inclined to gaze at handsome youth or to even have impermissible contact with them. Indeed I am in a desperate situation. Kindly help me. women (women who one is permitted to marry). At other times I am strongly inclined to commit zina (fornication). Often I am inclined to gaze at handsome youth or to even have impermissible contact with them. Indeed I am in a desperate situation. Kindly help me.
Summary of Reply:
Respected Brother / Sister
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
At your age (youth) it is common for people to be troubled by such carnal desires. By restraining yourself from acting upon these urges, you are accumulating a great treasure of rewards in the Hereafter. When you are engulfed by the urges to look atghair mahram women or to commit zina but nevertheless restrain your gaze and other limbs, it is akin to waging jihaad. Thus you are receiving this great virtue so easily.
When making zikr of la-ilaaha illallah, (when saying la-ilaaha)imagine that you have taken the love of all besides Allah Ta’ala and thrown it behind your back and (when saying illallah imagine that) you have established the love of Allah Ta’ala in your heart. When making the zikr of ‘Allah,’ imagine that a light has been switched on in your heart which is getting brighter all the time. Also visualize that this light is emanating from your mouth with your breath as you are makingzikr and it is engulfing your entire body and even the entire Musjid. May Allah Ta’ala help you.