Summary of Letter:
Respected Mufti Saheb
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
My mother is always very upset with me. I feel that she has enmity for me. Therefore, I have severed all relations with her. I have done the same with my brothers. Please guide me as to what I should do.
Summary of Reply:
Respected Brother / Sister
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
It is essential and absolutely necessary to respect one’s mother. To stop talking to her is a means of severe deprivation. Likewise, to cut off ties from your brothers is extremely detestable.
You are sure to have come across the following narration: “Join family ties with the one who cuts off ties from you, forgive the one who has oppressed you and be kind to the one who has harmed you.” Therefore, never consider the ill-treatment of others towards you. Instead consider how you should be responding to their ill-treatment (in the light of the Hadith above). In this you will find peace and comfort.
You have studied the Persian book “Bustan”. You may remember the following couplet in there: “To return evil with evil is very easy; if you are a courageous person then be kind to those who have been ill-mannered towards you.”
(Tarbiyat Taalibeen)